Sex Without Intercourse
Sex Without IntercourseSex and sexuality are natural, pleasurable parts of life. Your sexuality lasts your whole lifetime and is unique to you. You are a sexual person whether or not you are having sex.
People can find intimacy, emotional and intellectual closeness, pleasure and orgasms from a range of activities that do not lead to pregnancy. Not having vaginal intercourse prevents pregnancy and opens the door for a better understanding of your own and your partner’s bodies and responses which could result in better communication and more satisfaction.
UseDon’t have penis-in-vagina intercourse. If release of sperm occurs, keep it far away from the vulva or vagina.
Examples include: caressing with your hands, use of sex toys, oral sex, masturbation, same-sex sex, telephone or talking sex, fantasizing, play-acting, reading or writing your own erotic literature.
Waiting to have sex, taking a break from sex, or saying no to sex are also ways you can assert your personal power to prevent pregnancy.
AccessFree and available anytime.
Safer SexWhile preventing direct contact between the genitals is the only 100% effective means of preventing pregnancy, keep in mind that contact with bodily fluids still carries the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STI), including HIV/AIDS.
MasturbationMasturbation is erotic self pleasure. It is using your hands or other objects on your own body to give yourself sexual pleasure. Masturbation can take on many forms, including but not limited to, manual stimulation of the genitals and the use of sex toys such as vibrators and dildos. It can often be enhanced by exploring fantasies. Since masturbation does not require a partner or anything other than your own hand, it is always available as a way to explore and have orgasms. Masturbation is normal and natural.
Masturbation increases sexual awareness and can be a powerful way to learn about your own body. For women, masturbation can help to locate the clitoris as well as other erogenous zones. Learning about your body can help you be a better lover in the future.
Safer Sex Tip: While masturbation includes carries no risk of passing STIs to other people, you may spread some STIs on your own body. To protect yourself from further infection, wash your hands in between touching different parts of your body. You can also use latex gloves and change them as you change which part of your body you are stimulating.
Mutual Masturbation – for PartnersMutual masturbation is giving as well as receiving sexual pleasure using hands, sex toys, or other parts of the body. It can help partners learn how to better communicate and please each other.
Safer Sex Tip: To prevent the spread of STIs between partners, you can use condoms or latex gloves when touching a partner’s genitals. Use only one barrier at a time and dispose of them afterward. Female condoms can be used to fit inside the vagina and cover some of the vulva. Male condoms can cover a dildo and latex gloves can cover your hands. Do not share sex toys without changing the barriers used, or wash them well with soap and water and dry them completely.
Oral SexOral sex is the use of the mouth to stimulate the genitals. The mouth can do many things to stimulate another person. Depending on your partner, different kinds of teasing, rhythm, and intensity will be preferred. Oral sex can be performed at the same time as other kinds of stimulation.
Safer Sex Tip: STI can be passed during oral sex. For cunnilingus, oral sex on a woman, or analingus, oral sex on the anus, a dental dam, plastic food wrap, or a condom cut open can be used to cover the area to prevent the spread of STIs. For fellatio, oral sex on a man, non-lubricated or flavored condoms are useful. Condoms with spermicide taste bad.
Anal SexFor many people, the anus is a highly erogenous zone. A penis, finger or dildo can be used to stimulate the anus as well as to penetrate it.
Safer Sex Tips: Anal sex performed on a woman by a male partner without a condom may risk pregnancy if semen from the man’s ejaculation touches her vulva. While the chances are not as high as with vaginal intercourse, this is not a zero-risk of pregnancy activity. Sperm can travel from the perineum or vaginal lips to the uterus and cause pregnancy. Using condoms is much safer.
Anal sex can be performed with male condoms fitted over the penis or dildo to prevent the spread of STIs or the risk of pregnancy. Some condoms are already lubricated, but additional lubrication is usually needed with anal sex. Different condoms should be used for each partner and when switching between oral and anal intercourse.
Same Sex SexHaving same-sex sexual experiences prevents pregnancy since it eliminates the possibility of egg and sperm meeting. Homosexual, gay, lesbian or queer sex can involve mutual masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, and other possibilities for stimulation.
Safer Sex Tip: Safer sex measures described in the above sections reduce the risk of STI/HIV transmission. The goal is to prevent partners from absorbing or ingesting each other’s bodily secretions. Use gloves, dental dams, condoms, plastic wrap and thoroughly clean sex to.
Other IdeasSome other ideas for having fun while preventing pregnancy and disease include telephone, or talking sex, fantasy, story-telling, play-acting, reading, sharing, or writing your own erotic literature. In Sister Outsider Audre Lorde explains: “The erotic functions for me in several ways and the first is in providing the power which comes from sharing deeply any pursuit with another person. The sharing of joy, whether physical, emotional, psychic, or intellectual, forms a bridge between the sharers which can be the basis of understanding.”
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Exploring Sex and Intimacy Without Intercourse
By Cory Silverberg
Sexuality Expert
When most people talk about sex, and when researchers say they are studying sex, usually they mean intercourse. And not just any intercourse, but specifically penile-vaginal intercourse. Even without a lot of sex education, most people move into adulthood with the understanding that intercourse is, or should be, the core of healthy sexuality.
Variations focus on finding a new sex positions now and then. There are other sexual activities, like masturbation, oral sex, phone sex, massage, writing love letters, etc... but these are additions, not the main event. Even the term 'foreplay' inisists that no matter how much fun it is or how much pleasure you get from it, everything before intercourse is just a set up to the big show.
To be clear, there's nothing at all wrong with intercourse. But the truth is that it doesn't work for many of us, and even those people who can do it and enjoy it, if they live long enough they are going to experience times when intercourse either doesn’t work physically or it just isn’t doing it sexually, emotionally, or spiritually.
Those are the times that most people start searching for sex beyond intercourse. If you've stumbled on this article and you're not there yet, let me suggest that broadening your sexual horizons before it's necessary is not only a fun thing to do, it will serve you well in the future.
Getting Beyond IntercourseIt's hard for people
to get around this. If intercourse has been working for you there may not have been a good reason to challenge the status quo definition. There are, however, some predictable times when intercourse stops working for couples, and they need to broaden their sexual horizons:
Think About ItYou probably already have your own definition of what sex is. But have you taken the time to really think about how you define it, what counts, what doesn't, and why you think about sex the way you do? There are no right or wrong answers here (including the answer that sex IS intercourse). What's most important is asking yourself the questions and giving yourself time and permission to think about the answers.
Talk About ItIf you're already having intercourse you've already figured out how to find a sexual partner. The next step to moving outside of the socially sanctioned sexual box is to start talking to your partner about what you think about sex.
Do ItYou may already have the thinking and talking part dealt with. But pick up most sex manuals and they still focus on intercourse as the main event. They offer you 365 positions for intercourse, but nothing on what else you can do. Below is a seriously incomplete, but hopefully inspiring, list of ways of "doing i" that don't involve intercourse:
Sex Without IntercourseSex and sexuality are natural, pleasurable parts of life. Your sexuality lasts your whole lifetime and is unique to you. You are a sexual person whether or not you are having sex.
People can find intimacy, emotional and intellectual closeness, pleasure and orgasms from a range of activities that do not lead to pregnancy. Not having vaginal intercourse prevents pregnancy and opens the door for a better understanding of your own and your partner’s bodies and responses which could result in better communication and more satisfaction.
UseDon’t have penis-in-vagina intercourse. If release of sperm occurs, keep it far away from the vulva or vagina.
Examples include: caressing with your hands, use of sex toys, oral sex, masturbation, same-sex sex, telephone or talking sex, fantasizing, play-acting, reading or writing your own erotic literature.
Waiting to have sex, taking a break from sex, or saying no to sex are also ways you can assert your personal power to prevent pregnancy.
AccessFree and available anytime.
Safer SexWhile preventing direct contact between the genitals is the only 100% effective means of preventing pregnancy, keep in mind that contact with bodily fluids still carries the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STI), including HIV/AIDS.
- STI can still be passed from one person to another through bodily fluids such as blood, semen, vaginal secretions, and saliva.
- HIV can be passed through blood, semen, vaginal secretions, and breast milk.
MasturbationMasturbation is erotic self pleasure. It is using your hands or other objects on your own body to give yourself sexual pleasure. Masturbation can take on many forms, including but not limited to, manual stimulation of the genitals and the use of sex toys such as vibrators and dildos. It can often be enhanced by exploring fantasies. Since masturbation does not require a partner or anything other than your own hand, it is always available as a way to explore and have orgasms. Masturbation is normal and natural.
Masturbation increases sexual awareness and can be a powerful way to learn about your own body. For women, masturbation can help to locate the clitoris as well as other erogenous zones. Learning about your body can help you be a better lover in the future.
Safer Sex Tip: While masturbation includes carries no risk of passing STIs to other people, you may spread some STIs on your own body. To protect yourself from further infection, wash your hands in between touching different parts of your body. You can also use latex gloves and change them as you change which part of your body you are stimulating.
Mutual Masturbation – for PartnersMutual masturbation is giving as well as receiving sexual pleasure using hands, sex toys, or other parts of the body. It can help partners learn how to better communicate and please each other.
Safer Sex Tip: To prevent the spread of STIs between partners, you can use condoms or latex gloves when touching a partner’s genitals. Use only one barrier at a time and dispose of them afterward. Female condoms can be used to fit inside the vagina and cover some of the vulva. Male condoms can cover a dildo and latex gloves can cover your hands. Do not share sex toys without changing the barriers used, or wash them well with soap and water and dry them completely.
Oral SexOral sex is the use of the mouth to stimulate the genitals. The mouth can do many things to stimulate another person. Depending on your partner, different kinds of teasing, rhythm, and intensity will be preferred. Oral sex can be performed at the same time as other kinds of stimulation.
Safer Sex Tip: STI can be passed during oral sex. For cunnilingus, oral sex on a woman, or analingus, oral sex on the anus, a dental dam, plastic food wrap, or a condom cut open can be used to cover the area to prevent the spread of STIs. For fellatio, oral sex on a man, non-lubricated or flavored condoms are useful. Condoms with spermicide taste bad.
Anal SexFor many people, the anus is a highly erogenous zone. A penis, finger or dildo can be used to stimulate the anus as well as to penetrate it.
Safer Sex Tips: Anal sex performed on a woman by a male partner without a condom may risk pregnancy if semen from the man’s ejaculation touches her vulva. While the chances are not as high as with vaginal intercourse, this is not a zero-risk of pregnancy activity. Sperm can travel from the perineum or vaginal lips to the uterus and cause pregnancy. Using condoms is much safer.
Anal sex can be performed with male condoms fitted over the penis or dildo to prevent the spread of STIs or the risk of pregnancy. Some condoms are already lubricated, but additional lubrication is usually needed with anal sex. Different condoms should be used for each partner and when switching between oral and anal intercourse.
Same Sex SexHaving same-sex sexual experiences prevents pregnancy since it eliminates the possibility of egg and sperm meeting. Homosexual, gay, lesbian or queer sex can involve mutual masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, and other possibilities for stimulation.
Safer Sex Tip: Safer sex measures described in the above sections reduce the risk of STI/HIV transmission. The goal is to prevent partners from absorbing or ingesting each other’s bodily secretions. Use gloves, dental dams, condoms, plastic wrap and thoroughly clean sex to.
Other IdeasSome other ideas for having fun while preventing pregnancy and disease include telephone, or talking sex, fantasy, story-telling, play-acting, reading, sharing, or writing your own erotic literature. In Sister Outsider Audre Lorde explains: “The erotic functions for me in several ways and the first is in providing the power which comes from sharing deeply any pursuit with another person. The sharing of joy, whether physical, emotional, psychic, or intellectual, forms a bridge between the sharers which can be the basis of understanding.”
Advantages
- Always available.
- Free.
- 100% effective when used consistently.
- Does not alter the menstrual cycle.
- No hormones.
- Does not affect future fertility.
- Does not necessarily protect against STIs, including HIV/AIDS.
- Can be difficult to maintain in the heat of the moment.
Exploring Sex and Intimacy Without Intercourse
By Cory Silverberg
Sexuality Expert
When most people talk about sex, and when researchers say they are studying sex, usually they mean intercourse. And not just any intercourse, but specifically penile-vaginal intercourse. Even without a lot of sex education, most people move into adulthood with the understanding that intercourse is, or should be, the core of healthy sexuality.
Variations focus on finding a new sex positions now and then. There are other sexual activities, like masturbation, oral sex, phone sex, massage, writing love letters, etc... but these are additions, not the main event. Even the term 'foreplay' inisists that no matter how much fun it is or how much pleasure you get from it, everything before intercourse is just a set up to the big show.
To be clear, there's nothing at all wrong with intercourse. But the truth is that it doesn't work for many of us, and even those people who can do it and enjoy it, if they live long enough they are going to experience times when intercourse either doesn’t work physically or it just isn’t doing it sexually, emotionally, or spiritually.
Those are the times that most people start searching for sex beyond intercourse. If you've stumbled on this article and you're not there yet, let me suggest that broadening your sexual horizons before it's necessary is not only a fun thing to do, it will serve you well in the future.
Getting Beyond IntercourseIt's hard for people
to get around this. If intercourse has been working for you there may not have been a good reason to challenge the status quo definition. There are, however, some predictable times when intercourse stops working for couples, and they need to broaden their sexual horizons:
- When two people have been in a long relationship and sex seems boring.
- If you or your partner are undergoing, preparing for, or recovering from medical treatment or procedures.
- If you or your partner are dealing with depression, anxiety, or other acute mental health issues.
- If you or your partner are living with chronic or temporary pain.
Think About ItYou probably already have your own definition of what sex is. But have you taken the time to really think about how you define it, what counts, what doesn't, and why you think about sex the way you do? There are no right or wrong answers here (including the answer that sex IS intercourse). What's most important is asking yourself the questions and giving yourself time and permission to think about the answers.
Talk About ItIf you're already having intercourse you've already figured out how to find a sexual partner. The next step to moving outside of the socially sanctioned sexual box is to start talking to your partner about what you think about sex.
Do ItYou may already have the thinking and talking part dealt with. But pick up most sex manuals and they still focus on intercourse as the main event. They offer you 365 positions for intercourse, but nothing on what else you can do. Below is a seriously incomplete, but hopefully inspiring, list of ways of "doing i" that don't involve intercourse:
- How about a kiss?
- Non-genital sexual touch.
- Touch yourselves (mutual masturbation).
- Talk dirty to the one you love.
- Stop talking (oral sex).
- Reading sex stories to each other.
- How to give her a handjob.
- How to give him a handjob.
- Using sex toys together.
- Sexual fantasy role play.
- Exploring the limits of sexual pleasure with edging.
- Getting all spiritual on your sex life.
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